It doesn’t matter how many times you f*ck up, how awful you are, what idiotic things you say or do, tomorrow is always a new day, there are people who will still have faith in you, there are people who will give you another chance. If Donald Trump can be believed in by over half of America after … More Donald Trump offers hope to us all
‘At any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.’ ∼ Abraham Maslow Friends tell me how brave I am to be facing my demons head on and not running away from them, but the way I see it I have no choice, I have to … More Being brave isn’t always pretty
As I continue my exploration of my loneliness I’m starting to be aware of my feelings and even starting to be able to disentangle some of those. Until recently it has felt like one big confused mess, like a bunch of balls of wool all pulled out and laying in a tangled heap. Until relatively … More The Loneliness of a Codependent
The trees welcome the autumn winds and allow themselves to be undressed, gently at first, until the wild wind tears at the remaining blades. Their roots hold firm during the cold winter months while the boughs sleep under a quilt of snow. Spring follows winter whether it is wanted or not, sparking the world into … More Ode to Autumn and Friends
When you have one eye on the past you only have one eye left to see where you are going. Doors close on us in life, some smash in our face others push steady and slowly, with creaks, groans and long sighs until we are finally and firmly shut out. However the door closes, sooner … More Closing Doors, Opening Possibilities
She grew up intrinsically understanding her parents’ pain, bravely carrying the heavy trunk of her parents’ shame. Believing herself responsible for fixing, healing, loving her parents’ wounds until they were whole again. When she could not fully hold the pain that was not hers to hold and she saw the wounds were still there she felt … More That was her torment. She understood.
Many would agree that in order to maintain a relationship there is usually an expectation of a ‘give and take’ balance, a kind of unwritten contract that I am there for you and you are there for me. It’s natural that the friendship weighing-scales sway a little to either side at varying times but if it … More Needs and expectations, giving and taking
What is it really thats going on when friends (or family) don’t don’t show up at the tough times? When tough times come up in someone’s life the needs of that person tend to grow – a lot. Tough times don’t either have a time limit, they can be recurring over a long period, getting … More Hard times reveal your true friends
Last week I met a young man who was just completing a 40 day trip around Europe, ending his stay in Stockholm. Seeing his sleeping mat tied to his bag I wanted to get some packing tips for my next trip – I’m wondering if I might take a sleeping bag and mat or if … More Trust versus fear
A year ago my body and soul screamed “STOP”. Well I suppose it started a lot longer than a year ago, probably with a whisper, a few polite nudges. ‘You are tired’. ‘You need to rest’. But in the end it left no room for manoeuvre or avoidance. I was out of function, emotionally and … More I refuse to reposition myself on the nail.