When you have one eye on the past you only have one eye left to see where you are going. Doors close on us in life, some smash in our face others push steady and slowly, with creaks, groans and long sighs until we are finally and firmly shut out. However the door closes, sooner … More Closing Doors, Opening Possibilities
She grew up intrinsically understanding her parents’ pain, bravely carrying the heavy trunk of her parents’ shame. Believing herself responsible for fixing, healing, loving her parents’ wounds until they were whole again. When she could not fully hold the pain that was not hers to hold and she saw the wounds were still there she felt … More That was her torment. She understood.
I’ve scrambled the stony, unmarked path back from the bottom of the darkness enough times I know I can survive anything. Traumas from the past create in me abounding strength, armour as hard as nails and chinks that reveal my vulnerable weakness underneath. But it feels like my armour is starting to look like grandmas … More I know I can survive, I’ve done it before
Many would agree that in order to maintain a relationship there is usually an expectation of a ‘give and take’ balance, a kind of unwritten contract that I am there for you and you are there for me. It’s natural that the friendship weighing-scales sway a little to either side at varying times but if it … More Needs and expectations, giving and taking
What is it really thats going on when friends (or family) don’t don’t show up at the tough times? When tough times come up in someone’s life the needs of that person tend to grow – a lot. Tough times don’t either have a time limit, they can be recurring over a long period, getting … More Hard times reveal your true friends
Last week I met a young man who was just completing a 40 day trip around Europe, ending his stay in Stockholm. Seeing his sleeping mat tied to his bag I wanted to get some packing tips for my next trip – I’m wondering if I might take a sleeping bag and mat or if … More Trust versus fear